I heard it again, they fight again. It started with a small little domestic issue to a big fight because one is expecting the other to do the air ticket booking to Japan for holiday. They are planning for a holiday to Japan and it should be a happy and looking forward occasion. But, the fight has developed from a verbal attack with all the "four letters words", to pushing and in the mid of fight, she has accidentially hit her little girl.

"mom, why did you hit me?" the little girl asked. Her heart was pain to see her little girl been hurted.

"why did you hit her?" he asked. The fire in her burn furiously, she got more angy on him for accusing her to hit her little girl when it was an accident. No matter what, she will not hurt her little girl.

"mom, why did you always fight with daddy?" "why", the little girl kept asking. She could not explain to her that it was he who initiated the flight. Unfortunately, little girl only saw what her mom did to her dad, but not what her dad has done to her mom. It has registered in her mind that mom has hit dad.

It was not one time but many times, the many quarrels and the fights over and over again , but she still hold on the marriage because she could not bring herself to initiate the divorce. She is hoping that he will hit her hard and he will initiate the divorce. Despite the counseller and the pastor's wife advise, she is still denying the situation. She claimed that she does not love him anymore because of the constant quarrels and flights, she could not pray for him anymore. Home is no longer the home sweet home environment to her, it is fill with fear and sadness. But, she still hold on the marriage because she could not bring herself to initiate the divorce, she is waiting for him to initiate. Why? is it because she will feel better that it is not her who initiate the divorce? Recently the newspaper feature a man who hit his wife till she has 80 scares over her body that she has to cover herself up with long sleeve and long pants and she has nightmare for the past one year. I told her the story but she still deny and avoid the advise.

Marriage needs a lot of compromising, understanding and communicating. Why one could tolerate with your friends, bosses, colleagues and even strangers' irritating actions, but not your own spouse and family members? Is it one choose to take for granted with your close one? Why we could be friend with others but not with our spouse and family members?