Phases of change - Denial

When changes take place, there are five phases are commonly associated with recovering from radical change and they are,

Denial --- Anger --- Bargaining --- Depression --- Acceptance

Denial

"No, how can it happening to me"

"That is impossible, you must have made a mistake"

This is the first step one will face it when things happened. You may get confused and disoriented. You feel a strong need to understand what went wrong and want to know why.

Your immediate response to dramatic change may be denial, numbness, fear, shock, anger or tears. You may find yourself in turmoil, refuse to accept the situation, cannot accept the facts, on and on until you find a way to change gear, take action and regain personal control.

At these situation, it is normal and it is fine for one to go thru the abnormal behaviour. After all we are human being with feeling and emotion. But important is how long we want to stay in that denial situation and how should we react after the denial stage.

There is no magical solution or special miracle. It all in ourselves and our mind and of course God's help and prayer.

What do we want? Do we want to stay in that denial stage? Keep blaming ourselves or others? Keep denining and refused to accept the reality? Or do we want to accept that we have done our best, give in our best effort and there is nothing we can do it now.

Do you know that there is one thing we cannot change and that is our past. We cannot change the situation after what had happened, but we can change our future when we want to move forward from here. We should move on our life rather than park our life at the denial stage. By moving forward you are actually moving one-step away from the denial stage. This might not be the end of the whole situation, in fact the journey later on will be tougher and tired but I will say that it is a step that you have accepted the facts and move on with your life.